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This day always brings up many different thoughts and feelings for me. To start with, I wish it wasn\u2019t needed! Secondary, the fact that it\u2019s still announced as such is a clear sign that we still need it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>There are many aspects on this theme, and I\u2019m choosing here to share what feels personal for me, knowing that there are millions of more reasons for celebrating and honoring women today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>When I was younger, I was terrified about beautiful and successful women. I can see today how I was blinded by my own perception, prejudice and judgement. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I spent many years comparing myself to others, and I can honestly say that almost any woman would make me feel judged, small, unimportant, unintelligent and less successful. Not to mention all the physical comparisons I did where I saw myself as uglier, fatter, less athletic, just to mention a few. I also linked softness and femininity with weakness and tried the best I could to act the opposite, believing that\u2019s how I need to act to move around in this world. I mean, who\u2019d like to be squeezed to the ground and stamped on while showing softness?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">What I didn\u2019t see was that when I compared myself with others, I also defined these women with the ideas I had about what was <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">right<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> and what was <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">wrong<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> in a woman. The judgements I felt others having about me, was in fact the judgements I had not only towards these women, but also towards myself. I believed that looking\u00a0<\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">right<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">, wearing the <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">right<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> clothes, knowing the <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">right<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> people, having the <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">right<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> university degree would take me where I wanted to go. As you can imagine this became a very lonely place to be, because wherever I turned, I saw this as the <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">reality <\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">I didn\u2019t fit into.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">Many things shifted with my perceptions about myself when I started to investigate \u201c<\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">who am I\u201d.<\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\"> With therapy, introspection, meditation and support I started to get to know myself from <\/span><em style=\"font-size: 14px;\">the inside. <\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">Here I found softness, a slower pace and an embodied wisdom that I gradually started to trust. I also found a very strong back that can hold my soft front, and the soft part of me nowadays never get mixed up with ideas like softness equals weakness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">Now I started to look with new eyes on the women around me, and I found that many women felt the same as I used to do, and that they felt they had to put on a mask to succeed. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">I remember being on a conference listening to a CEO for a big company, a beautiful, brilliant woman, who before in my life would have scared the shit out of me! Now I was sitting close enough to every now and then be able to have eye contact with her, and I intentionally focused on seeing the beauty, the sharp mind, all the efforts she must have done to get here and her confidence in what she was presenting. I felt admiration and I felt proud being a woman. Afterwards I went up to her and told her how inspiring she was and she suddenly looked shy and said; \u201cYou know, every time I go up there I\u2019m terrified! It felt so good to look into your kind eyes, feeling your support\u201d\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">Since then, this is my practice. Whenever that little doubt shows up in me, I remember this occasion and tell myself that this woman too, needs support. And it has become my superpower.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14px;\">More so, today when I look around, I find myself surrounded by brilliant, beautiful, skillful, kind, funny, courageous, strong, vulnerable amazing women of all ages. 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